Being diagnosed with a life-threatening illness can be a devastating experience, for you and all the people in your life who cherish you. It turns your life upside down and brings with it a tidal wave of emotions that you have to deal with whilst making some very important practical and treatment decisions. It brings you face-to-face with your own mortality. Your whole identity is changed as you enter an unknown world of being a 'patient', a walking set of 'symptoms' to be 'treated'.
As Jenny Lewis puts it:
"My first cancer diagnosis was eleven years ago and I was catapulted into a state of shock and crippling anxiety. My wonderful GP, herself a cancer survivor, came out to see me straight away. When I questioned how I could possibly cope with my anxiety, she said that strength would 'just grow from within'. She was right, it did, after just a short while. And I was showered with the most amazing love and caring - often from the most unexpected sources - so that I came to value myself and to realise how blessed I was.
"Ten years on and I was diagnosed with two unrelated primary cancers. This time the strength came to the fore straight away, as did my sense of humour. My view was that 'being dead' held no fear for me, though 'getting there might be tricky!'
"To anyone reeling from the shock of the diagnosis, I would say 'Just find your calm centre and allow your inner strength the space to grow'."
The Dalai Lama says in his Little Book of Wisdom:
"Illness happens. It's not something exceptional; it is part of nature and a fact of life.... When unfortunate things happen, there are two possible results. One possibility is mental unrest, anxiety, fear, doubt, frustration and eventually depression... The other possibility is that because of that tragic experience you become more realistic... closer to reality... The tragic experience may make you stronger and increase your self-confidence and self reliance... [and] can be a source of inner strength."
There's no doubt that such a diagnosis creates a crisis, for you and your loved ones. Shock, disbelief, denial, anger, 'Why me?', guilt, worry about loved ones, fear of becoming a burden, loss of future and of identity, fear of surgery, disfigurement and hair loss - all these have a part to play in your readjustment to that crisis.
John F. Kennedy said in 1959:
"When written in Chinese, the word 'Crisis' is comprised of two characters. One represents Danger, and the other one represents Opportunity."
So, though the life-threatening condition presents us with a whole gamut of emotions as we respond to the inherent danger, it also presents us with an opportunity to re-evaluate what is important in our lives.
This is Lydia, six months after being told she has three months to live:
"I've had just two sessions with Jenny so far. My pain went immediately and I was able to talk normally again and rediscover my strength and determination to live and to enjoy life. I've come to realise how beautiful the world is - the grass, the trees and the flowers - things I never really noticed before and took completely for granted."
To achieve these transformational results, Dying to Live uses the rapid and powerful tools of Thought Pattern Management™, coupled with a blend of Hypnotherapy and NLP. There have been some astounding results from the use of these techniques, by educating the mind to heal the body. They are, however, not an alternative to medical interventions, but rather they are complementary, and go hand-in-hand with whatever treatment methods you and your medical team choose together.
The mind and the body are all one system; our thoughts dictate our physiology and our actions - make a change in one, and the other follows. Change the way we think and we change our physiology and our behaviour. As the Dalai Lama says, we have a choice of which option to take... And the choice is ours.
Henry Ford once famously said:
"Whether you think that you can, or that you can't, you are usually right."
So, we get what we expect to get. The Law of Attraction would endorse this view. We owe it to ourselves and to our loved ones to expect to live life to the full, to let go of our fear of dying and learn to Be Alive. Every day, every moment of every day, is a precious gift to be cherished. Our lives are made up of a whole series of such moments, until the time comes to let go of life and embark on our next great adventure.
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